Saw the above tweet and just wanted to drop a quick thought about how I see it. I never make a promise, whether little or big. I never commit to give something in future especially since I have known from childhood that a million things are out of my control. Good intentions are not enough when you eventually fail to keep your word. People are better off continuing to look for solutions than to relax their efforts on the assurance that their problem has been solved even though at a future date. You will also be too embarrassed to tell them that you will no longer be able to fulfil your promise especially when it is now too close to the date, for fear of the massive disappointment you know they will feel. And so you will continue to struggle and hustle trying to raise the resources you need to fulfil your promise, to the very last minute.
Usually by this point you are dreading that phone call. Every minute that passes and they have not called will feel like a welcome eternity and you will be praying that they lost their phone and consequently your number. When they eventually call, you will be torn between picking the call and waiting for it to ring out at least to buy yourself another hour. If you have some courage, you will send a text instead of picking their call so you avoid hearing the sadness and heartbreak in their voice. If you do not have courage you will simply switch off your phone after their 10th call and hope that by the time you switch it back on 5 days later, you would either have been able to fulfil the promise, or they would have moved on with their lives.
All of this would have simply been avoided if you LEARN TO SAY NO and refuse to make any promises AT ALL, no matter what is at stake. Do what you can in the moment and keep it moving. They wanted 200 thousand but you only have 5 thousand right then, send the 5 and close it out. They want to borrow your car for their wedding on a certain day, say no first and then a day to the event you can call and ask if they still need it. That way, you always come off as a straightforward person with integrity and in the best case scenario, as a last minute hero.
So in summary, they say do not make a promise you cannot keep…I say do not make any promises AT ALL. Let me know what you think in the comment section below.